SUSPICION: A KILLER-DISORDER
Sanni K. Yusuf
If there is any disease that is worse, more terminable and that should be scarier than ebola, it is the disease of the mind, such as jealousy, hate for no tenable factor, and of course, the subject matter, suspicion – assumedly interpreting an action beyond the intention of the doer.
Ebola as dangerous as it is only rottens the body, but the soul of the person may still enjoyably have the eternal life of the hereafter – Jannah (Paradise). Suspicion and/or any sister-disease kills the soul by having the mind gradually and systematically destroyed, thereby resulting in the loss of the life of the hereafter.
Suspicion is when you blend together many cubes of sugar, a handful of salt, several rolls of alum and some teaspoonfuls of honey to take just one cup of coffee. It becomes nothing but poison, undoubtedly. And if you take it, you will have ended up terminating your own life by your own self. Suspicion is to make saddening sense out of every action. Suspicion is to always see what is done to you as bad even though the intention of the doer is not known, or perhaps good.
Suspicion makes the maker insecure, such that he becomes paranoid – a pathology or disorder where the sufferer trusts no one, including his/her spouse, even parents. Suspicion makes one see friends as foes.
Professionally, one notable way to know a victim of this disease is when he claims to know ALL about someone’s behaviour at first sight or encounter. How possible? Because he is suspicious of every single word or step taken by the person, whereas the intent behind such words or steps are healthy. How can you confidently claim to know ALL about someone at just one encounter? When did you start having a share in Allah’s unequalled qualities? He alone is ‘Aalimul ghaib (Knower of the hidden). You had better come back to your senses before you unknowingly find yourself in the pit of shirk (polytheism).
Suspicion irreparably dents friendship. It irredeemably destroys family ties. It unsolvably damages the society. It injuriously charters organisational oneness. It lamentably rejigs love into loss. Suspicion breeds enmity and waxes it stronger.
Suratul Hujuraat, also known as Suratul Akhlaaq which addresses societal ills has a verse that encapsulates all about suspicion. Allah says:
يايهالذين ءامنو اجتنبوا كثيرا من الظن ان بعض الظن اثم فلا تجسسوا ولا يغتب بعضكم بعضا… واتقوا الله ان الله تواب رحيم.
“O you who believe! Avoid suspicion; indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not, neither backbite one another… And fear Allah. Verily, Allah is the One Who forgives and accepts repentance, Most Merciful.” (Qur’aan 49 Verse 12)
Based on the above, it is deducible that a suspicious person will backbite. In fact, he will slander or even libel. And all these are major sins. A suspicious fellow is likely to instigate and insight people against the suspected one. He/she may, though unknowingly, break up the mosque, the office, the school, the family and the society at large. Indeed, suspicion is demonically, satanically worse than ebola!
Professionally noting, once again, no human born of a woman, aside the special ones, such as the Prophets and Messengers, is suspicion-free. Everyone has at least an atom of the disease in his personality. However, one way to tame it from destroying one’s hereafter is to give people benefit of the doubt. No matter how sure your suspicion may be, you should always say “maybe he/she didn’t mean it that way”. Always give excuse.
Brother, sister… kindly tame the suspicion in you before it kills you.