…….really a well-established custom, it is an act which the Prophet PBUH has approved. The
honorable wives of the Prophet and his companions, may Allah be pleased with them,
used to take care of the housework and are obedient to their husbands.
Every Muslim woman will find in Fatimah (the daughter of Prophet PBUH), may Allah be
pleased with her, the best example. Sayidina Alli described her as follows:
“She was the daughter of the Messenger of Allah PBUH, and the most honorable member
of his family to him. She was my wife, she turned the quern until she injured her hand,
and carried the water skin until she hurt her back, and she swept the house until her
clothes were filled with dust, and she lit the fire under the cooking pot until her clothes
were black and she herself was hurt.
Asma’ bint Abi Bakr al-Siddiq served her husband al-Zubayr, and took care of the house.
Her husband had a horse, which she took care of, feeding it and exercising it. She also
repaired the water-bucket, made bread, and carried dates on her head from far away.
Al-Bukhaari and Muslim report this in her own words:
“Al-Zubayr married me, and he had no wealth, no slaves, nothing except his horse. I used
to feed his horse, looking after it and exercising it. I crushed date-stones to feed his
camel. I used to bring water and repair the bucket, and I used to make bread but I could
not bake it, so some of my Ansari neighbors, who were kind women, used to bake it for
me. I used to carry the dates from the garden that the Prophet (SAW) had given to
al-Zubayr on my head, and this garden was two-thirds of a farsakh away. One day I was
coming back with the dates on my head. I met the Messenger of Allah (SAW), who had a
group of his Companions with him. He called me, then told his camel to sit down so that
I could ride behind him. I told (al-Zubayr), ‘I felt shy, because I know that you are a jealous
man.’ He said, ‘It is worse for me to see you carrying the dates on your head than to see
you riding behind him.’ Later, Abu Bakr sent me a servant, who relieved me of having to
take care of the horse; it was as if I had been released from slavery.”
The Bible in many chapters also teaches that a husband should have authority over his
Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
The New Testament also teaches that a wife should obey her Husband
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife
as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church
submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.