There were two confused law girls I taught some lessons few years ago, it might be useful still for confused minds like theirs.
The first one claimed that Allãh isn’t just (Astaghfiru Llãh) between males and females genders, I asked, how? So, she replied as thus:
Why are women not allowed to marry more than one husband and why do male children take double share of what female children take during the sharing of inheritance?
I felt bad but I couldn’t get angry, in order to impact in her convincingly. I said; Allãh is always just. He created males in a way that is completely different from females. When a man has more than a wife there won’t be a mix-up of whom the children’s owners are but for women, reverse is the case. Women are prone to diseases and liable to spread it through having multiple partners while for men, it couldn’t be that horrible, Islãm regulates polygyny for men to marry maximum of 4 without an additional extramarital partner.
Interestingly, Qur’an is the only divine book in which it is allowed to marry one wife with a beautiful reason that – when one cannot establish justice among more than one wife, he should stick to only one.
“If you fear that you will not deal fairly with orphan girls, you may marry whichever [other] women seem good to you, two, three, or four. If you fear that you cannot be equitable [to them], then marry only one, or your slave(s): that is more likely to make you avoid bias.” Sûratu Nnisã’ (Qur’an 4:3)
The strength of men is intense compared to that of women, men are protectors for them, they’re to pamper and take care of them. Most men have collosal strength for sex, they’re always active, women have periods of time for break but men’s strength is of no power failure. When a wife menstruates, the husband suffers holding himself which isn’t usually easy, after birth, her man holds himself for long and he must at the same time fend for the well-being of the family. Therefore, having more wife is just to have a relief from what may trigger zinã.
Allãh shares it equally, men have a lot of responsibilities to attend to while most responsibilities have been divinely lifted for women, trying to rebel against Allãh and His messenger in a legislation is a disbelief. Be careful!
Further more, women after having grown up children attach themselves more to them than their men, this in most cases affects men mentally. Men can only overcome this trauma in old age by having more than a wife, they can’t all leave him at the same time.
I told her, this question might be a result of taking critics among the Christians as friends while your understanding about your religion isn’t satisfactory, they usually attack Islãm with polygyny unknowing to them that Islãm only regulated the uncontrolled polygyny tradition in Christendom. They hide what their book said, they twist and result to doing directly opposite of what their book preaches.
Those that engaged in polygyny in the bible are the important figures, this shows how natural it is, hence, it is a nature of men to have more than one wife. The polygynists in the bible include the father of faith (Abraham) and other instances are of Esau (Gen 26:34; 28:6-9), Jacob (Gen 29:15-28), Elkanah (1 Samuel 1:1-8), David (1 Samuel 25:39-44; 2 Samuel 3:2-5; 5:13-16), and Solomon (1 Kings 11:1-3).
No where in the bible is it mentioned to marry one wife, monogamy can only be found in the Marvelous Qur’an, no where else.
The question on inheritance, this is simple. Islãm is the only religion that explains how inheritance should be shared. Islãm is such a complete religion.
For men, they have limited number of people to inherit from but for women, they inherit from multiple means. In addition, they have a lot to receive from children than what fathers receive. It is the tradition of the Prophet (pbuh.) to give mothers X3 of what fathers are given, they receive from all members of the husbands’ family but the husbands only give out, he spends on his family and his in-laws family – if they take double of what women take in inheritance, it isn’t too much. Allãh knows best!
For the second girl, she’ll always fix different hairstyles, as a preacher, I admonished her to cultivate the habit of covering her head at least, but to my surprise, she claimed that her head wasn’t uncovered. I was confused and curiously I asked, which head are you talking about? She answered with affirmation that, her head of course. She claimed to have covered her hair with the artificial hair and that was okay by her. I pitied and admonished her further.
We need to know what we’re doing as Muslims, take our religion and worship serious.
May Allãh always guide and hold us firm.
Abdulsalam Abdullahi Oladimeji