If there is any disease more terminable than ebola, it is that of the mind, such as jealousy, hate for no tenable reason, and of course, suspicion – interpreting an action beyond the intent of its actor.
Suspicion is when you blend together many cubes of sugar, a handful of salt, several rolls of alum and some teaspoonful of honey to take just one cup of coffee. What do you have in the end? Poison! And if you take it, you will have ended up taking your own life by your own self.
Suspicion means making saddening, sickening, perplexing sense out of every action. It is to always see what is done to you as bad, even where the intention of the doer is not known.
Suspicion makes one insecure such that one becomes paranoid – a pathological disorder where the sufferer trusts no one, including his/her spouse, parents, children etc. Suspicion makes one see friends as foes and one ends up entrusting his life with foe-like friends.
Professionally, one way to identify a victim of this disorder is when he claims to know ALL about someone’s behaviour at first sight or encounter. How possible? Because he reads meanings into every single word or step taken by the person, whereas the intent behind such words or steps are healthy.
How can you confidently claim to know ALL about someone on just one encounter? When did you start having a share in Allah’s unequalled qualities? You had better come back to your senses before you unknowingly find yourself in the pit of shirk.
Suspicion irreparably dents friendship. It irredeemably destroys family ties. It unsolvably damages the society. It injuriously charters organisational oneness. It lamentably changes love into loss. Suspicion breeds enmity and waxes it stronger.
Suratul Hujuraat also known as Suratul Akhlaaq which addresses societal ills has a verse that encapsulates all about suspicion. Allah says:
(يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ ۖ وَلَا تَجَسَّسُوا وَلَا يَغْتَبْ بَعْضُكُمْ بَعْضًا ۚ أَيُحِبُّ أَحَدُكُمْ أَنْ يَأْكُلَ لَحْمَ أَخِيهِ مَيْتًا فَكَرِهْتُمُوهُ ۚ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ تَوَّابٌ رَحِيمٌ)
“O you who have believed, avoid suspicion; indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not, neither backbite one another… And fear Allah. Verily, Allah is the One Who forgives and accepts repentance, Most Merciful.” (Qur’aan 49 Verse 12)
Based on the above, it is deducible that a suspicious person will backbite. In fact, he will slander or even libel. A suspicious fellow is likely to insight people against the suspected one. He/she may, though unknowingly, break up the mosque, the office, the school, the family or the society at large. Indeed, suspicion is demonically worse than ebola!
Professionally noting, once again, no human born of a woman, aside the special ones, such as the Prophets and the Messengers, is suspicion-free. Everyone has at least an atom of the disorder in his person. However, one way to tame it from destroying one’s hereafter is to give people benefit of the doubt. No matter how true your suspicion may likely be, you should always say “maybe he/she didn’t mean it that way”.