MAN AND HIS UNGRATEFULNESS
Few days ago, I travelled from Ilorin to Abuja, I experienced something that I linked with human behavior and I think it is necessary to share.
Sitting near me on the bus was a woman with a little girl sitting on her laps. Being a kid, she started playing with me. I reciprocated then handed her plantain chips followed by a bottled water (استغفر الله العظيم). She was grateful and said “thank you”. Then, I was the best person on the bus to her excluding her mum.
On getting to Lokoja, Kogi state, the driver stopped for us to buy things, ease ourselves and relax before proceeding to Abuja. I got a bottle of Fayrouz and Suya. Getting on the bus I started having what I bought to myself while she looked at me with a corner of her eye and I kept studying her. To her disappointment, I finished everything and I then attempted to play with her but No!!!, she changed and was hostile. By then, I was the worst person on the bus though I have reached out to her whilst others have not.
This makes me remember the words of Allah (SWT),
And as for man, when his Lord tries him and [thus] is generous to him and favors him, he says, “My Lord has honored me.”
Faamma al-insanu idha ma ibtalahu rabbuhu faakramahu wana”amahu fayaqoolu rabbee akramani
فَأَمَّا الْإِنسَانُ إِذَا مَا ابْتَلَاهُ رَبُّهُ فَأَكْرَمَهُ وَنَعَّمَهُ فَيَقُولُ رَبِّي أَكْرَمَنِ
But when He tries him and restricts his provision, he says, “My Lord has humiliated me.”
Waamma idha ma ibtalahu faqadara ‘alayhi rizqahu fayaqoolu rabbee ahanani
وَأَمَّا إِذَا مَا ابْتَلَاهُ فَقَدَرَ عَلَيْهِ رِزْقَهُ فَيَقُولُ رَبِّي أَهَانَنِ
Surah Fajr verses 15 and 16
The little girl perfectly displayed human behaviour. Man is ungrateful and this ungratefulness was confirmed by his Lord, Allah says,
Indeed mankind, to his Lord, is ungrateful.
Inna al-insana lirabbihi lakanoodun
إِنَّ الْإِنسَانَ لِرَبِّهِ لَكَنُودٌ
And indeed, he is to that a witness.
Wa-innahu ‘ala thalika lashaheedun
وَإِنَّهُ عَلَى ذَلِكَ لَشَهِيدٌ
Surah’ Adiyat verses 6 and 7
If the ungratefulness of man in confirmed by his creator, isn’t it troubling one’s soul expecting man to be grateful?
It has become a part of man to despise his long time helper once such person is not able to help again. There are cases of people who have killed their brothers to inherit his properties yet this same man is the one seeing to most of their needs.
There are cases where a good man to his family encounters problem that he stops giving out then the family members will say, “Oh!, his wife has turned him against us”
The worst of these is when the man who used to be good is taken as the most wicked because he is no longer able to help then the tales of his assumed wickedness are told to people who have never reached out to the talebearer.
We live in a world where kindness is seen as stupidity, acts of goodness come with frustrations, trust being betrayed etc.
It is for the one who does and enjoins acts of kindness and compassion to look up to no one for reward but rather seek the pleasure of Allah (SWT), for in that lies satisfaction. Allah says,
Those who spend their wealth for increase in self-purification,
And have in their minds no favour from anyone for which a reward is expected in return,
But only the desire to seek for the Countenance of their Lord Most High;
And soon will they attain (complete) satisfaction.
Surah Layl verses 18-21
It is upon the one on the receiving end to know that if there are 99 reasons to despise someone who used to be good to him/her, the help rendered before should be that one reason to keep seeking Allah’s mercy on the one who at some point in time showed kindness and compassion.
That we may be grateful…
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