DELAYING MARRIAGES IN ISLAM
Marriage is one of the most loved sunnahs of the Prophet (PBUH) in the eyes of Allah. Marrying early is loved even more and delaying marriage for no proper reason invites the displeasure of Allah. Hence we as Muslims should not delay our marriage at all if the blessing is knocking at us on our door. The Holy Prophet (PBUH) said that it is important for all Muslims to get married as soon as possible as it helps them stay away from unlawful ways (in the eyes of Allah) He says:
“It is a right upon Allah to help one who seeks to marry for the purpose of avoiding what Allah has prohibited.”
What Allah has prohibited and what they mean here is fornication and adultery. When one is married happily they can avoid these sins and hence make a place for themselves in Jannah. If not, well then, Jahannum is their destination.
Allah understands that marriage brings about a great sense of responsibility and so it has been made a Sunnah for all and not a Fard. The men need to be financially secure for most of the responsibility of supporting a family in Islam falls on the man. Hence they do not marry till they know they have earned a secure income every income. However, inspite of earning a steady salary, lots of people in our society still delay marriage , in the hopes of further succeeding, further building a career. This is wrong and should be definitely discouraged. To this sort of behavior and attitude Allah has said in the Quran:
“Marry the unmarried among you and the righteous of your male and female servants. If they should be poor, Allah will enrich them from his favours. Allah is Bountiful and Knowing.” Qu’ran 24:32
What a wonderful reflection for the people who wait, for no reason, to get married. Allah has promised in His word that He will enrich the poor with favours so it is alright to get married even if you are poor. For Allah can do anything. So believe in Allah and take the step to marry.
In our society, another reason for not getting married early and delaying marriage is the pressure of parents to complete education. This is one of the most dangerous requirements of parents as when their children reach puberty, their desires obviously increase. This leads them to mix with the opposite gender freely and indulge in haraam relationships. If, however, they would marry whilst they were studying, then it would be completely permissible and they would infact be blessed by Allah.
The Prophet (PBUH) has said “Get married because I will display your outnumbering the other nations on the day of resurrection. Whoever has wealth should get married, and whoever does not should fast, because fasting is a restraint of desire for him.”
Hence we should get married as soon as possible in order to avoid falling into sin. We are humans, and with limited self control. That is why Allah has made rules that we ought to follow. Every Sunnah of the Prophet has a reason, getting married early solves the problem of committing major sins and we must embrace it openly
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