CHOOSE WISELY By Ahmad Bukar (Ibn_Islam)
As humans, we are immensely in need of relationship because we cannot live in isolation, for this we make readily. However, in making friends we encounter much challenges as to the type and appropriateness of our choice of friends. It is wiser and better to be alone than to be in a bad company.
Your friends would likely influence much of your choice because they are the people around you. This is because friends being a good part of us, we discuss most of our affairs with them that we may not even discuss with our close ones such as our parents, so much so that some of us have made friends part of their family.
However, we need to be aware that not all friends are good. And For this reason, our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) advice us so much on the matter of friendship.
“A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends. ” [Sunan Abu Dawud 4833]
This Hadith is similar to the English adagethat says: “Show me your friends and I will tell you who are you”.
The Prophet (SAW) did not stop there he also said :
“Your best friend is the one who: seeing him reminds you of Allah, speaking to him increases your knowledge, and his actions remind you of the hereafter.” (Al-Muhasibi)
If we need to socialise, we must look for people with the above mentioned qualities. Do not make friends with those that cannot help you increase your obedience to ALLĀH. Making a bad choice of friends will lead us to choosing Shaytan and this will have a great consequence on us because, its influence upon our ēmān and actions is damaging. We ask ALLĀH to protect us.
ALLĀH says to the nearest meaning; “Keep yourself content with those who call their Lord morning and evening seeking HIS pleasure, and let not your eyes look beyond them, seeking the splendor of worldly life.” [Quran: Surah Al-Kahf, 18:28].
We do not want to be of those that would say on the day of reckoning:
“Oh, woe to me! I wish I had not taken that one as a friend.”
“He led me away from the remembrance after it had come to me. And ever is Shyatan, to man, a deserter.” [Al-Furqan, Verse 28-29]
We ask ALLĀH to have mercy on us and protect us from making friends that will lead us to destruction. Aameen!
© Ahmad Bukar ( Ibn_Islam)
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