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AND IF YOU HAVE EVER WATCHED PORN By Olanrewaju Alhassan Adedokun

March 3, 2019 Uncategorized 0

And If You Have Ever Watched Porn…

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…We agreed the other time that the only way to quit watching porn and halt the addiction is to never watch it, but absolutely, that’s only deter the puritans (in the positive sense here) who have never had a taste o to f it.
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Ultimately, there are those who have successfully halted the habit, albeit after so much struggle. I spoke to a brother who had two stints with it, and another who made several vows before successfully thwarting his desire. And what I’m doing is just tabling the solutions they had to proffer.
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Remember
1. That You Can Watch Porn Is a Blessing….

Yes, a blessing. Time for some exercise. Try closing your eyes for twenty seconds, behold the darkness, the psychological disorder, then try taking a few steps to the nearest door, then back to where you were before that, then imagine an entire life spent tapping the earth with a stick.
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A poet friend who had been missed in the circle for some time posted a few days ago (May Allah deliver him of his illness. “This is to inform my dear friends on social media
who probably may have missed my weekly posts, that i have been in and out the hospital in the last two weeks as a result of some health complications.
My health challenges have taken a toll on me. I can no longer walk around… as i used to do. My eyes have become dim and blurry. And my bp is a source for concern. Let me not bore you with the gory details. Life is no longer enjoyable as it is. But i am determined to fight this battle to the end. I shall give it all it takes to live again.
Indeed, i am not through yet.
There are too many dreams awaiting my nod.
Kindly pay attention to your health while you’re well and hearty. It’s all you’ve got protect it with all your might.”
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Our eyes, with which we watch these obscenities are arguably the biggest blessing bestowed upon us by Allah, and the levy paid upon any such blessing is gratitude. Quran 14:7 “And remember when your lord proclaimed, if you are grateful, then I will increase you in blessings”.
Ibn Qayyim explains in his book “Alwaabilu Ssayib” that the pillars of gratitude are three. And the third, is the most important to us: “That the blessing for which one is grateful be used only in that which pleases the giver (Allah)”
Any gratitude that falls one pillar short is not gratitude, and hence, if you spend all your nights praying, and you fail to use your eyesight ONLY for things which please the giver, then verily, you would fall into the category of the ungrateful ones, whom Allah had this to say about: Quran 16:112 “And Allah puts forward the example of a township that dwelt secure and well-content: its provision coming to it in abundance from every place, but its people denied the favours of Allah (with ungratefulness). So Allah made it taste extreme ginger and fear because of that evil which they used to do”
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Applying the aforementioned verse to our situation would serve to deter us, to remind us that our ending might be no different from that of those in the quoted example. And what’s more? The promise to overturn the blessings upon an ungrateful people is from the one who never reneged on his promises; who promised the Romans victory over the Persians after the Romans had been stunningly defeated (Q:30:1), who -at a time it would have sounded eccentric- informed us that every living thing was created from water (Q21:30), that the body of Pharaoh lay preserved (10:92), that Islam -at a time it was practiced only by the most lowly and powerless of people would come to spread all over the world.
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Verily, if there is cause to doubt anything, then our doubts, and not his promises should be doubted first.
Remembering- at a time you are about to embark on such acts as watching pornography, that it is an act characterized by sheer ungratefulness, and hence, would only be rewarded by inescapable overturn of the blessing – would at least, serve as friction to slow you down, if not stop you totally.
At times, you only have to think about the innumerable ways Allah can overturn his blessings on you. Start with your health.

If you’ve ever been afflicted with pneumonia (which causes a difficulty in breathing), then you would value each breath you take. It’s the worse sickness I’ve gone through, and it never lasted a day, but, yet, I never forget to remember it whenever I’m about to spend my good health on a sinful act. Think about other ways, the worse sicknesses, it’s your assignment.
Then, think about other things; we all want -and most certainly pray – for heavenly spouses. Take a deep breath, and imagine a life spent with a hell-on-earth partner. Things as ‘little’ as this determine things as big as that in our lives.
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All that is negative. Now, for the positive. Have you ever thought, that staying away from these things could be used as interceding mediums between us and Allah when we have entreaties and wishes we want him to grant? Remember the men who got stuck in a cave and called upon him, using their good deeds to ‘water the ground’?

This could well be used.
At all times, we have a prayer or two burdening on our hearts. From passing your exams in flying colors, to praying to get an admission to praying (after studying hard of course) to end up with a good G.P, to getting a good job, to…. to… to… and the cycle goes on and on.
Stop it. Then use it.
Ask for things, telling Allah that you have not left your desire except for his sake, then ask. Ask. Ask again.
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One more thing, remember the seven under the shade, who would be protected from the scorching heat of the Sun on Qiyaamah? “And one who spends his youth worshipping Allah”
We often tend to understand this as going about printing ‘Salafi’ on our walls, extinguishing dissident voices, standing up at night, memorizing the Quran, and all. But do you forget, that, most of those are orders ‘to do’, and some even not compulsory, while the commands which encompass watching pornography are orders ‘not to do’.

And the prophet has said, “Whatever I command you not to do, then don’t (no excuses), but that which I command you to, then do from it that which you are capable of.”
Obviously, staying away from pornography comes before standing up at night, and obviously, that would make you ‘One who spends his youth in worship of Allah’ to a higher degree than standing up at night.
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2. Stay Away From Intoxicants

Intoxicants aren’t always bottled. There are some that can be found littering the streets, some on your phones, some in your home, but one thing common to them, is that they cause you to want to watch these things. Lower your gaze on the streets; there are so many cheap women (especially) going about flaunting their bodies to be feasted on freely by passers by. You can’t have them, you know, not because they’re not that cheap, but because you’re not that bad yet, so what do you do?

You retire to what is easily accessible: porno.
This is not limited to the street. Your television. Select what you watch. ‘Too romantic’ movies won’t help your rehabilitation. Music videos, and for those who use that goddamned Opera News, don’t click on everything, claiming it is not too….. after all. Any video that displays things that can arouse you in any way, should be thrown out. A brother told me (He had been addicted to pain, torture and such videos) that he got aroused watching two women just fighting or pulling at each other’s hair even if they’re well clothed. If that’s your class, stay away from women wrestling, and run! run! when you find two women exchanging words. Study your situation and find all the intoxicants, then avoid them.
This, for some of us, could even mean avoiding chats with the opposite sex.
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3. Admonish Others

This is very important if you are of the few who trust me because this time around, I’m not tapping from a friend but from my hard-earned eighteen year experience.
So, personally, I’ve seen this work and even serve overtime. Advising people against something, telling them how bad it is, and telling them of the bad consequences makes you feel ashamed whenever you want to embark on the same thing, and also makes you more conversant with the dangers.

Mentor others, advice them, ask them about it from time to time. At a point you start feeling like a therapist contemplating suicide whenever you consider the act. You think of the others you mentor, think of the verse, “Do you order people to do good and forget yourselves?”
Do it. Admonish them. Go on and spread the gospel. Sorry, the therapy.
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Disclaimer: Such topics as this should not be handled by people like me, but I realised that the scholars, who are in the best position to handle it will not; either because they don’t know how much damage it has caused or they simply can’t imagine the prevalence rate.
Second; For anyone interested in evaluating the writer and adding 1+2 to get 5, then, I hereby declare that all I did was research (talk to others) and gathering opinions.
“و ما أبرأ نفسي، ان النفس لامارة ب السوء”
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Lan Rey Hassan
(For Knowislam.com.ng)

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